升米恩、斗米仇
惟雯說故事
從前,有兩戶人家是鄰居,其中一家比較富裕。
有一年,天災導致田中顆粒無收。
窮的一家沒了收成,只能等死。
富的一家有很多糧食,就給窮人家送去了一升米,救了急。
窮的一家非常感激救命恩人!
熬過最艱苦的時刻後,窮人就前去感謝富人。
說話間,談起明年的種子還沒有著落,富的一家慷慨地說:「這樣吧,我這裡的糧食還有很多,你再拿去一斗吧。窮人千恩萬謝地拿著一斗米回家了。」
回家後,窮人家裡人說,這斗米能做什麼?根本就不夠明年地裡的種子,他們太過分了,既然這麼有錢,就應該多送我們一些糧食!
這話傳到了富人耳朵裡,他很生氣,心想,我白白送你這麼多的糧食,你不僅不感謝我,還把我當仇人一樣忌恨。
於是,本來關係不錯的兩家人,從此成了仇人,老死不相往來。
這就是“升米恩,斗米仇”。
當一個人饑寒交迫的時候,你給他一碗米,就是解決了他的大問題,他會感恩不盡。
但是,如果繼續給他米,他就會覺得理所當然了。
一碗米不夠,兩碗米不夠,三碗、四碗還是覺得你只給了滄海一粟。
欲望像海水,喝得越多,越是口渴。
痛,可以忍住,而癢卻是越撓越上癮的。
這到底是怎樣的一種道理?
這道理很複雜,就是好事不是不可以做,怕的是他人習慣了你這樣做,甚而認為你天生就該這樣做。
生活裡常有這樣的事,當你好心幫人的時候,第一次幫他時,他會對你心存感激,第二次,他的感恩心理就會淡化,到了N次以後,他簡直就理直氣壯地認為這都是你應該為他做的,甚至當沒有了這種幫助時,他會對你心存怨恨,正所謂恩中招怨。
我們都明白“滴水之恩、湧泉相報”的道理,所以,當自己遇到傾心相助的朋友離我們而去時,也許我們也該反思:「我們是否也曾漠視了,也曾接受了別人“一斗米”之惠,而淡漠了人家施米的恩情?」
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